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Couples Therapy

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Do you feel distant or disconnected from your partner?
Do you seek to rekindle the love and connection that you felt at the beginning?
Do you find yourselves getting into the same old fights, over and over again?
Are you or your partner having trouble communicating your needs and desires to each other? 
Do you or your partner not feel understood by the other?
Are you and your partner missing the intimacy that you crave?

If so, then you have come to the right place! 
 

WHEN IS A GOOD TIME TO START COUPLES THERAPY?

 

Don't wait until it's too late!

 

The truth is, most couples wait too long before seeking help.

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In reality, the best time to start couples therapy is when things are just starting to get tricky; when tensions and resentments are just beginning to surface; when the issues and dynamics are just starting to form.

But, for many good and valid reasons, most couples don't turn to therapy until much later.

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If this is you, don't worry!

The second-best time to start is NOW!

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If you and your partner didn't seek help when the issues first started – if things in your relationship are already feeling heated, reactive, and/or eruptive - don't worry!

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That's where I come in.  

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HOW I APPROACH COUPLES THERAPY

Every relationship is unique and special.

There is a reason why you chose this relationship.

And there is a reason why you still want to make it work, even now. 

I honor and celebrate those reasons, whatever they might be. They are precious. 

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Relationships are not like the fairy tales portrayed in the movies.  Every relationship will have its rough patches from time to time.  It doesn't mean that it is "wrong" or "broken"; it often just means that it needs a little extra caring attention and objective guidance.

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In my couples therapy, I take a client-centered approach, assisting couples in understanding how their complex relationships work, what went wrong, and how to fix it.

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I deal with each couple as the unique world that it is, and practically and proactively focus on the work and tools needed to repair the relationship or, in some cases, move on from the relationship in a healthy, compassionate way.

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THE THERAPEUTIC MODALITIES THAT I USE

 

  • Attachment Theory

  • The Gottman Method

  • Emotional Focus Therapy (EFT)

  • Non-Violent Communication Skills (NVC)

  • Imago Relationship Therapy (IRT)

  • Family Systems Theory

  • Internal Family Systems (IFS)

  • Role Theory

  • Reflective Listening

WHAT WE WILL DO TOGETHER IN THERAPY

  • Understand how past experiences, traumas, and attachment styles have shaped your current relationship

  • Identify your core beliefs and thinking patterns that are impacting your relationships and your ability to have healthy relationships

  • Identify your core beliefs about each other and relationships/marriage in general that are at play in your relationship's current dynamics

  • Learn healthier communication styles and skills to mend any rifts, misunderstandings, and damage already caused

  • Learn to create, communicate, and support each other's healthy boundaries to create more safety, mutual understanding, excitement, and intimacy

  • Discover and address sources of resentment and conflict to reinvigorate and re-energize your relationship

  • Find and develop trust and vulnerability in your relationship or marriage, while maintaining healthy boundaries, so that you can develop real intimacy with your partner

  • Overcome anxious, negative thoughts about yourself (or the other) that stop you from seeing yourself as worthy of love

  • Develop you and your loved one's ability to be more spontaneous, relaxed, and, most importantly, have fun together again!

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